If you are reading this, you have probably already tried to help yourself. You have read the books and listened to the self-help podcasts. Maybe you have even asked ChatGPT to help you reframe thoughts like “I’m a failure”, hoping new technology would finally help you feel at peace.
These strategies may have brought some clarity and relief. But at the end of the day, you are still feeling stuck. No matter how much effort you put in, something seems to be missing. You might be thinking, “What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I just be content?”
The truth is, nothing is “wrong” with you. You are not lazy, ungrateful, or lacking willpower. What you need is not another set of tips or tricks, but a different kind of work altogether.
Why Self-Help Falls Short
Self-help strategies often focus on behavior: exercise more, sleep longer, eat better, meditate daily. These can be great practices, but when they don’t “work”, it is usually because they are trying to address symptoms without understanding the roots. We hope surface changes and motivational statements will be enough to address complicated issues–but the depression and loneliness return. The self-criticism comes roaring back. This is when we can start to feel hopeless–we have done everything “right”, and yet we still feel empty.
A Different Kind of Work
Therapy at Grace Counseling is not simply about giving you a checklist of things to do. It is about creating a relationship where you can be seen and heard in a way that most people rarely experience in everyday life. Through the work we do together, you will make sense of how you feel and understand yourself better. With this awareness, you can make changes that last.
A qualified, professional therapist not only listens to your story, but also pays close attention to the things you may not notice yourself. They share what they observe with you, gently and honestly, so that together you can make sense of what is keeping you stuck.
You can ask ChatGPT to reframe your thoughts, but it will not look you in the eye and gently point out the patterns and barriers that keep you frustrated. You can read a book about boundaries, but it won’t notice the small, powerful shifts in the way you talk to yourself. The therapy space provides experiential, in-the-moment, embodied feedback and support.
Real healing work often feels uncomfortable at first. It is vulnerable to risk having another person notice things about you that you were outside of you awareness, or the deep wounds buried long ago. Being seen and known in this way might be exactly what you are needing. It is not easy work, but seeing yourself more clearly opens the door towards meaningful change.
If you are tired of quick fixes that do not last, we invite you to take the next step. Let’s walk this road together, because real healing is possible.
Cindy Gao is a Counseling Intern at Grace Counseling. She is currently earning her Master’s Degree in clinical mental health counseling. She is honored to walk this journey with you. Contact the office or Cindy to get started and schedule an appointment!
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