When a child is diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), it often triggers an awareness and realization for many parents: they may share similar neurodivergent traits. The behaviors that lead to a child’s diagnosis—such as failure to sit still in class, interrupting others, and hyperactivity —can also manifest in adults, although in different forms like chronic impulsivity, disorganization, and difficulty managing time. Recognizing these patterns can be the first step toward understanding and addressing ADHD in adults.

For a resource on recognizing ADHD in children, click HERE.

Recognizing ADHD Symptoms

For adults, ADHD may present itself through challenges such as missed deadlines, forgotten commitments, and difficulty maintaining focus. Symptoms can include:

  • Chronic Impulsivity: Acting without thinking, often leading to hasty decisions.
  • Disorganization: Struggling to keep track of tasks or manage responsibilities at home or work.
  • Time Management Issues: Difficulty prioritizing tasks and hyper-focusing on specific interests to the detriment of other responsibilities.
  • Low Frustration Tolerance: Becoming easily overwhelmed or irritated by minor setbacks.
  • Restlessness: An inability to remain still, often manifested through fidgeting or an urgent need to move.
  • Mood Swings: Frequent emotional fluctuations that can impact relationships.
  • Following Through: Trouble completing tasks or adhering to instructions, leading to unfinished projects.

These symptoms can create significant challenges in both personal and professional settings, often contributing to feelings of frustration and inadequacy or conflicts in marriage and parenting.

The Importance of Reflection

For adults suspecting they might have ADHD, reflecting on their childhood can be crucial. Engaging parents in conversation about their behavior as children can offer valuable insights. ADHD is traditionally diagnosed in childhood, and understanding patterns from the past can shed light on how these traits have persisted into adulthood. 

A person’s spouse can also provide awareness into the patterns of communication, behavior, and relational dynamics. One useful book is Honey, Are You Listening? by Rick and Jerelyn Fowler, and it explores common relational dynamics affected by ADHD and provides strategies for mutual respect in relationships.

Seeking Support for ADHD

If adults recognize similarities between their experiences and those associated with ADHD, it may be time for them to seek professional support. A therapist can help develop coping strategies and tools tailored to their unique needs. Additionally, primary care physicians can discuss medication options that may improve focus and cognitive function.

Support doesn’t just benefit one person; it also creates a more harmonious environment for multiple generations of a family. Children who observe their parents actively managing ADHD symptoms learn valuable skills for coping with their own challenges. Understanding ADHD from an intergenerational perspective can lead to greater acceptance and collaboration, benefiting both parents and children for years to come.

Moving Forward

Recognizing and addressing ADHD in adults can be a transformative process. With the right support, individuals can enhance their organizational skills, improve task completion, and better manage impulsivity. Understanding neurodiversity can help them not only accept themselves but also engage more meaningfully with those around them.

If you would like some support in understanding and managing ADHD symptoms for you or your family, please reach out to our office to schedule an appointment. Thea Pearman is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with specific training in helping individuals and families.